A Sick Partnership

 

Dom and the Narcissist

As I delved deeper into the psychological and technical dimensions of what had happened to me, one relationship began to stand out, one she had always downplayed and framed as “long over”. Her relationship with Dom. Supposedly an ex-boyfriend and a narcissistic abuser and stalker who was still blackmailing her, according to her he had been so abusive that she had to flee from Cologne to Stuttgart in the middle of the night, changing her job and identity to get away from him. But this was all a lie, told to get my sympathy during the love bombing stage. Their dynamic, far from broken or distant, was still active from as far back as 2019, and they had  in fact been in constant contact during the entire year long relationship. I suspect that many of the silent treatment punishments I was subjected to served the dual purpose of manipulating me and of affording the two of them time to spend together. 

Through WhatsApp messages she herself supplied me with, it became clear that she was still emotionally engaged with him, she still had influence over him, and, crucially, that she was setting the stage for what would later unfold by explicitly setting him aside for when she needed him. As ever, she was manipulating her victim masterfully. And also without the slightest concern as to the victims well being. In fact, it seems that she enjoyed teasing the man, and made sure to reject his advances while still keeping a door open to use him when needed. Truly narcissistic behavior.

 

What follows is not speculation. It is evidence.

Summary

This report analyzes a WhatsApp conversation between Ms. L. O. and an individual identified as Dom from approximately June 6, 2024. The communication provides critical context for the November 2024 cyberattacks on my accounts, revealing a pre-existing relationship between the parties and exposing the psychological patterns, emotional leverage, and manipulative dynamics employed by L.O. to secure his aid in the cyber attacks. Excerpt from WhatsApp Conversation — June 6, 2024 (Translated from German - the full version is available to read at the bottom of this section. )

 

L.O:
You say you long for a woman who takes the lead, but that woman could never be me. I always felt "communicatively suppressed"...

But I’m sure there’s someone out there who can “tame” you , just not me.

 

Dom:
I did all of it because I wanted you to leave me .
After we watched that movie together, I listened to Hungry Eyes on repeat.

...That moment on the bed, when you comforted me, proved to me that you were the love of my life. But that’s why I had to sabotage it. I couldn’t risk letting you in. I punished myself every time I wanted to hold you.

I would have given anything to picture a future with you, a house, kids, the whole cliché. But losing you would have broken me…

...I checked into Vogelsang Clinic in April 2020. But when we started connecting again, I left early. I even asked my therapist if it was crazy to ask you to move in with me. I wish I’d told you how beautiful I found you… But I never did. This message may be pointless now. I just had to say it.

Goodbye.

 

L.O:
Thank you for your honesty.

But it doesn’t matter anymore. I’m with someone else now. I know it hurts. I'm sorry, but I've let go.

So… do you want no contact? Except if I’m in need of you? That’s fine from my side, it’s the same. As well as the offer.

 

The entire conversation

(Below: Included below is the entire conversation )

The Vulnerability Map

Dom's messages reveal a psychological profile that narcissists find irresistible, someone with deep abandonment fears, self-worth issues, and technical capabilities that can be weaponized:

"My greatest fear is being abandoned or disappointed by the people I care about. So I fought like hell to keep you from becoming someone whose loss would destroy me."

"I gave you a late birthday gift, not because I forgot or didn't care. I treated you horribly after your vaccination, not because I wanted to see you suffer. It was all to make you hate me, to confirm what I already believed: that I'm unlovable."

This level of emotional dependency creates the perfect accomplice, someone who will do anything to maintain connection with their manipulator, even participating in criminal activities.

 

The Conditional Relationship

L.O.'s response demonstrates textbook narcissistic control mechanisms. She doesn't reject him entirely, that would eliminate his usefulness. Instead, she creates a conditional arrangement that keeps him psychologically bound while maintaining plausible deniability:

"So what are we going to do now? Do you prefer no contact at all? Except if I'm in need of you? That's a shame, but understandable. From my side, it's the same. As well as the offer."

The phrase "Except if I'm in need of you" is particularly revealing. It establishes her as the one who decides when contact occurs, for what purpose, and under what conditions. This isn't love, it's psychological ownership.

 

The Haus Vogelsang Connection

The conversation confirms what I had discovered through my investigation, both L.O. and Dom were patients at the same psychiatric facility, she had herself confirmed this to.

"That damn clinic in April 2020. I checked myself in because I was at rock bottom, then left voluntarily when things between us started to take off."

This shared experience at Haus Vogelsang wasn't coincidental. Predatory individuals often target vulnerable people in treatment settings, where emotional defenses are lowered and psychological manipulation is easier to establish and maintain. I am still investigating if there is not a deeper connection between them, more than a casual encounter at a clinic. However, at this stage there is only a suspicion with some circumstantial evidence, not enough yet to reveal what I feel certain is really the case with the two of them. Let me just say that, if my suspicions are true it would add another layer of scandal to this case. As soon as I know for certain I will let you know. Investigation is ongoing.

The Timing of Manipulation

This conversation occurred on June 6, 2024, exactly one week before my intervention led to her ban from the PIKA platform on June 12. The timing suggests she was already positioning Dom for potential future "services" before she knew exactly when she would need them.

When the PIKA ban occurred, it represented what psychologists call a "narcissistic injury."  So when she swore revenge to herself, the one key ingredient she desperately needed, a hacker that could help her destroy a victim digitally, was already eager and waiting to be allowed back into her life. A narcissist always plans ahead.

 

The Psychology of the Accomplice

Dom's lengthy confession reveals someone trapped in a trauma bond, the psychological attachment that forms between abuser and victim through intermittent reinforcement. His willingness to expose his deepest vulnerabilities, his self-blame for the relationship's dysfunction, and his desperate need for her approval create the perfect psychological profile for criminal exploitation.

"You're the love of my life. That moment on the bed, you comforting me, proved it. No one had ever done that for me before. That's why it shattered me."

This level of emotional dependency makes someone willing to commit crimes not for personal gain, but simply to maintain connection with their manipulator.

 

The Strategic Cruelty

Her response is a masterclass in psychological manipulation. She acknowledges his honesty but immediately crushes any hope of reconciliation by mentioning her new relationship. However, she doesn't completely sever ties, she maintains the conditional arrangement that keeps him available for future exploitation.

This calculated cruelty serves multiple purposes:

• Maintains his emotional dependency
• Establishes her power and control
• Keeps him psychologically available for future manipulation
• Creates the desperation that makes someone willing to commit crimes for attention or approval

 

The Criminal Collaboration

Five months after this conversation, the coordinated cyber attacks began. The psychological dynamics revealed in their WhatsApp exchange explain how L.O. could convince Dom to participate in criminal activities:

• Technical capability: D. possessed the skills needed for the attacks
• Emotional dependency: His desperate need for her approval made him willing to risk legal consequences
• Shared history: Their psychiatric facility connection created a sense of "us against the world"
• Conditional relationship: The promise of continued contact contingent on his usefulness

 

The Broader Pattern

This conversation isn't an isolated incident, it reveals L.O.'s systematic approach to maintaining useful relationships. She doesn't simply discard people when they're no longer serving her primary needs. Instead, she keeps them in psychological orbit, available for activation when circumstances require their specific skills or resources. She stores them on a shelf for later use.  She even jokingly discusses this in a Discord chat with me. 

The technical knowledge that made Dom useful in 2024 was cultivated and maintained through years of psychological manipulation, intermittent reinforcement, and carefully managed hope for reconciliation. For at least 5 years she has been using him when she needs him, only to put him back on his shelf when she doesn't. 

Key Evidence Gained

1. Shared Psychiatric History Confirmed
   Dom references Vogelsang Clinic, confirming a psychiatric history and a close timeline overlap between them dating back to 2019–2020. This is the same facility she referenced to me.

2. Manipulation and Conditional Access
   Dom shows vulnerability and emotional dependence, while Lea’s final reply includes a transactional clause—offering contact “if I’m in need of you.” This suggests Dom remained accessible and willing to comply, particularly when emotionally destabilized.

3. Psychological Control as a Motive
   Lea leverages her new relationship as a means of control, establishing emotional superiority while keeping Dom on standby.

 

This conversation preceded the key events of 2024. When aligned with later actions, the sequence forms a clear and revealing arc:

• June 6 – Emotional WhatsApp exchange confirming ongoing connection

• June 12 – Lea releases a fabricated video narration to PIKA moderators, leading to my permanent ban

• June 14 – I expose her lies with evidence; she is banned from PIKA

• November 16–29 – A sophisticated cyberattack campaign is carried out against me.

• November 19 – Dom uploads a photo of him and Lea, embracing in Rastatt. It was deleted minutes later.

1. Narcissistic Injury
   Her PIKA ban was unexpected and turned her victory into public exposure and defeat. In narcissistic terms, this was a severe injury to her constructed persona. Retaliation was almost inevitable.

2. Personal Attack
   The November hacking campaign bore clear signs of technical execution (likely Dom) and psychological targeting (clearly L.O.):

   • Creative platforms essential to my income were deleted

   • Pornographic accounts were created using my name

   • The message sent during the hacking mirrors her writing style

   • The photo of her and Dom was taken and uploaded deliberately to cause maximum confusion and distress

3. Telegram Photo as Digital Signature
   The appearance of their photo, after months of denial, was the clearest signal yet that the “ex” narrative was a lie. The image was posted as if to taunt, and withdrawn again quickly. However I managed to get a screenshot. I determined with Google Maps that it was taken outside of Rastatt Railway Station, probably around September 15th when she would have just moved there from Stuttgart.

4. A Man in the Picture
   This would give the couple more than enough time to plan the attack. She was already planning the revenge long before, evidenced by the deliberate taking of a photo in which she is visible with a man (Dom) Even though I had seen more than a hundred photos of her, there was never even a single one with a man in it. This was deliberate and created for a single use on November the 19th.

Psychiatric Insight

• Both Dom and Lea had rehab histories tied to Vogelsang, which became the shared backdrop for their bond

• Lea described Dom to me as “schizophrenic,”  and "narcissistic" despite maintaining contact with him, a contradiction worth noting.

• The WhatsApp messages follow a classic Cluster B narcissistic pattern:

  • Initial idealization

  • Strategic devaluation

  • Conditional discard with a backdoor left open

  • Control of Victim

This makes her not only manipulative but also dangerously skilled at using emotionally vulnerable individuals as pawns. As she has no concept of empathy she does not feel remorse or guilt the way normal people do. 

Hidden Accomplice 

This conversation is far more than nostalgia or an emotional farewell. It is a setup for activation, a psychological calibration session with someone who had both motive and means to assist her.

Dom wasn't just a broken ex. He was a tool, emotionally destabilized, fully enmeshed, and still within reach. Her carefully worded reply, ending in: “From my side, it’s the same. As well as the offer,” makes the agenda clear. She kept Dom around not for love, but for leverage.

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