" I will make you pay.. I will make you pay for this so hard that you will deeply regret having done this alone for the consequences it will cause. Having all your threats here as emails, I will make this public and cause your career and Reputation to end. You will be hated and followed by foreign people who stand up for me. There will be people at your front door who will want to make you pay, believe me." L.O. (The terrified Victim)
Surviving the Storm - My Story
Why I’m Telling my Story
This isn’t just a cautionary tale. It’s a deeply personal account of how one relationship, with someone I never even met in person, nearly destroyed me. Almost destroyed my career, my marriage, my finances, and my sense of reality. It’s about what happened when I got pulled into the fantasy world of a covert narcissist, who then used, betrayed, discarded and attacked me. And who, even now, is still trying to destroy my life.
My name is Klaus Grabler, and I’m not hiding.
All covert narcissists hide from scrutiny. This particular narcissist (L.O.) is experienced at playing the victim and she is portraying me as an unstable, out of control, narcissistic abuser. She has collected emails from me written during periods where she was subjecting me to silent treatments and is using them to claim that I am terrorizing her, that I've destroyed her life and that she's helpless and terrified of me. Keep in mind that we have never met in person, and she has not lost anything, not her job, not her Apple laptop or her health. She has not been harassed by police or banned from Telegram and WhatsApp. Yet, like every covert narcissist, she hides from public view.
So you will see my face on the banner of this site and in the upcoming video documentary series. That’s deliberate. I am not hiding from the world. Because I am not the narcissist. The real narcissist is the one pretending to be the victim. A 30 year old German national who I will name by her initials, L.O. and whose face you'll never see anywhere. Vampires hate the sunlight.
I don't wear a Mask
I’ve worked for years as a creative professional, 3D artist, writer, designer, consultant. I’m a husband, I walk my dog every day, I'm a romantic, and a man who still believes in values and people, even after what I’ve lived through.
I don’t speak from theory. I speak from real experience.
This woman, whom I refer to as “L.O.” here, didn’t just lie to me and play with my emotions. She didn't just abuse, humiliate and insult me. She orchestrated a systematic psychological and digital campaign of abuse that:
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Caused me to lose my employment and means of making an income
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Hijacked over 20 of my online accounts and attempted to frame me for various cybercrimes
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Threatened me and my family with physical harm and weaponized law enforcement against me
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Abused me psychologically, emotionally and mentally with the aim of destroying my life
But I am standing up and speaking out. Not just for myself, but to warn others like me. Victims of narcissistic abuse.
1. Idealization – The Bait
In this initial phase, Lea presented herself as the perfect partner, charming, attentive, and emotionally in sync. She mirrored your values, your passions, even your communication style, creating the illusion of a soulmate connection. Everything you shared was likely stored for later weaponization.
2. Devaluation – The Psychological Undermining
Once she had you emotionally invested, subtle shifts began. Passive-aggressive remarks. Sudden mood changes. She withheld affection, introduced ambiguity, or created triangulations This stage serves to unbalance the victim, keeping them desperate to “win back” the idealized version of her that never truly existed.
3. Discard – The Surgical Exit
The discard phase isn’t just about leaving, it’s about leaving you in a state of maximum confusion and self-doubt. but as a final assertion of dominance. Each phase is a mask, and once it’s served its purpose, she discards it, just like the people behind them.
The images was AI generated from a prompt description. No actual photo was used. Any resemblance is purely coincidental. Images have been altered to protect privacy
The Fallout
Due to the psychological abuse and the constant manipulation I began questioning my own memory, self image, even my sanity. An innocent seeming request for my assistance turned into a life altering event, caused me substantial personal harm and almost destroyed my 16 year marriage.
But my wife saw the truth, even when I couldn’t. We found our way back together, not by ignoring what happened, but by facing it. The narcissist failed utterly in her goal of driving us apart. She did her best to persuade me to get divorced and sell our house, future faking me with promises of a bright tomorrow, marriage and even a child. She almost succeeded.
Now I am trying to pick up the pieces, determined to put on record exactly what happened, using the evidence I gathered to tell my story.
Why I’m Going Public
This site is not about revenge. It’s about accountability. Soon I will be releasing a video documentary series: "Mind of a Narcissist"
Each episode follows the timeline, month by month, from the narcissists first message to her final betrayal. You’ll hear real voices, see real evidence, and judge for yourself what really happened.
But this isn’t just for me. It’s for anyone who’s ever been abused by a covert narcissist. And it’s also for her past victims, if you recognize this 30 year old German narcissist please contact me at admin@surviving-the-storm.org . Anyone unfortunate enough to have dealt with her will recognize her instantly from my accounts. Your story could be just what we need to put an end to this remorseless abuser who has no empathy, and who is even now busy with her next victim. I believe in the truth. I believe in evidence. And I believe that silence protects abusers more than it protects victims. So I’ve chosen to speak out and tell you my story.
The Covert Narcissist Exposed
She conceals her true self behind her false mask, lying and manipulating those around her, hiding behind her staged persona of the perfect victim. Using faked vulnerability and assuming false victimhood to create her narrative that I am some psychopathic stalker intent on destroying her life. This is typical narcissistic behavior evidenced by people with NPD. I believe I can prove this all to you. This will expose her true self to the world. It's a narcissists worst nightmare.
She’s already busy setting up her next performance. Her next victim is already doomed without yet realizing it. He believes, just as I did that she will never betray him. He will be wrong.
As for me, I'm just an ordinary man, a 60 year old animator from Boksburg, South Africa. All I ask is that you look at the evidence objectively. Who you believe is up to you. I am satisfied that I have told my side of the matter to the best of my ability.
Klaus Grabler
May 2025