"Do you think I am fucking stupid? You are a fucking criminal and I am sick of your downplaying and blaming me. Your emails piss me off so much today. Fucking annoying. "   L.O.  (The terrified 'Victim')

The Silence

Foreword

It was a true revelation to me just how effective covert narcissists like L.O. can be at turning the narrative around, reversing the roles of victim and abuser with surgical precision. They do not merely lie; they construct alternate realities that use empathy as a weapon and deploy society's safeguards to shield themselves while attacking their target.

What I witnessed firsthand was the systematic hijacking of protective systems built to defend the vulnerable, now punishing the innocent. When L.O. accused me of being a stalker, she wasn’t describing a real event. She was activating a cultural narrative: the fragile woman in danger, the crazy psycho stalking her. The fact that we had never even met in person was irrelevant. The narrative was enough.

Case in point: Flynn, a compromised former collaborator and now Discord moderator who ultimately helped her get me permanently banned from the very platform where she first contacted me for help, told me this when I confronted him months later:

"I sensed a certain fragility about her. And when she said some stalker was after her, I knew I needed to help her."

This is the covert narcissist’s ultimate sleight of hand. She frames herself not only as victim but as someone in need of protection, as vulnerable prey chased by a predator. People like Flynn don't verify facts. They responded emotionally, and in doing so, became unwitting enforcers of her version of reality. And paradoxically: The more you try to defend yourself, the more you fit the role they’ve given you. You become the pursuer, the crazy stalker, the psycho, simply for trying to show the truth of what really happened.

 

Below: A message between L.O. and 'The Flynn' a moderator and former collaborator of L.O's. Having helped her in the past he should never have been on the panel deciding my future. Even the message makes it obvious that he was compromised. I was never even asked a single question, nor allowed to defend myself before being banned for life. At the same time she was writing this she was telling me on a video call that she couldn't wait for me to come to Germany so that we could finally be together. When I showed the moderators evidence of how L.O. had lied to them 2 days later she was immediately banned for life. 

This is not just manipulation. It is psychological warfare. The abuser acts composed and reasonable, fragile but terrified, while the actual victim is distraught, disbelieved, emotional and eventually shunned. How can you make people believe you when they won't even listen to you? When all your attempts at communication are ignored with a deafening silence?

 

The Silence Network

As my investigation deepened, I noticed something peculiar: the sheer number of individuals and institutions who refused to speak to me, despite repeated, good-faith attempts. Some were personally involved. Others were professionally linked. But all responded with the same calculated silence. This is no coincidence.

Below is a list of those who, after being contacted multiple times, either wouldn't reply or totally shut down communications:

Inner Circle

  • L.O. – The primary suspect; ceased all contact after discarding me and beginning her smear campaign.

  • M. (Mother) –  She spoke to me on the phone in the early stages but has since refused to answer any communications.

  • J. H. (Stepfather) – Initially connected with me on LinkedIn and maintained email contact until September 2024. He then informed me he was "told not to answer emails." Refuses to re-engage contact, though he does read and forward my emails.

Associates

  • Dom (Co-accomplice) – Has never said a single word. Never responded to any of the dozens of messages I sent to his number, even during the hacking phase. Has blocked me on all platforms.

  • Michael Booysens (Possible former victim) – Connected to Jan on LinkedIn, which is how his profile was suggested to me. After Jan blocked me on LinkedIn, Michael did the same the next day. I called him directly, very fearful, said he wanted "nothing to do with it," and hung up before blocking me. Ironically, I was his wedding photographer 11 years ago.

  • Christian F. (Discord contact) – Accepted my friend request on Discord but never answered any of my direct messages, including a simple “hello.” All further attempts were ignored. An email from Lea to moderators confirms she was aware I was trying to contact Christian. She had mentioned to me she wanted to use him for his studio. 

Professional 

  • K. F. (Current employer) – Refuses all contact, and has never accepted any message or friend request.

  • Michael (Former boss) – I wrote him a letter in March 2024. He never replied, just like everyone else.

  • Regio Helden GmbH – Initially responded, then ignored inquiries regarding L.O.

Corporate 

  • Segmüller Furniture – Initially responded, then ceased all communication once identity concerns were raised.

  • “Klaus Grabler” Doppelgänger (grablerklaus@gmail.com) – Repeatedly contacted; never responded except once via a quote request under a fake name, where he responded tersely.

Law Enforcement

  • SA Police Case Investigator – Though my emails are opened (verified through email tracker), no replies have ever been received.

  • Colonel Vince (SAPS) – Ignored detailed report submissions via WhatsApp.

 

A Shield of Silence

In intelligence and psychological profiling, coordinated silence is often more telling than active denial. When even former colleagues, victims, or legal entities go dark, especially after confrontation with evidence, it suggests:

  • Fear of legal entanglement

  • Guilt by association

  • Orchestrated narrative control

  • Institutional pressure not to respond

In criminal conspiracies, “non-response” is often the operational signature. It doesn't refute the allegations, it confirms alignment with the one person who never replies. The other factor is fear. Fear of what the narcissist is willing to do to those who cross her.  The next revelation would show exactly what she was capable of and how she used those around her for her own purposes. Read More