Phase Two: Devaluation Part B

A Sabotaged Birthday

May 2024

By May, the cycle had become familiar: emotional distance, postponed plans, and just enough re-engagement to keep me hoping. Nothing outwardly dramatic happened that month, no explosions, no breakdowns. But what did occur was, in many ways, more telling.

Only one day before my birthday on May 14th, she deliberately initiated an argument about a photograph I mistakenly sent to a WhatsApp bank bot.  She complained bitterly about my carelessness and told me she had a phobia about having her images spread on the internet. No matter how much I tried to assure her that my bank bot would not distribute her image on the internet, she just would not de-escalate and it predictably ended up with me being blocked once again.

Ironically, something I did not find out until much later, she had posted photos of herself and her friend on her WhatsApp profile months earlier, on her birthday, visible to anybody with knowledge of how to look. It turns out she did not have the least concerns about having her image on WhatsApp, it was just an excuse to make the fight. Just another lie.

The message beneath the conflict was clear: you don’t get to feel celebrated. After the fight, she blocked and ghosted me until two days after my birthday, a pattern I would come to recognize as her way of hijacking any moment that wasn’t centered around her.

Narcissists often struggle when others receive attention. Birthdays, milestones, holidays, these are often targeted because they threaten their perceived dominance. If they’re not the center of attention, they create disruption until they are.

There was also yet another postponement. This time, the excuse was a two-week work commitment, she claimed she needed to train a colleague and would be “way too busy” for any meaningful contact. This was about control: offering just enough hope to continue, while ensuring I remained waiting, she maintained her power over me with future faking. 

By now I was learning a lot more about narcissism and it's symptoms. But nothing could have prepared me for what was coming next. 

False Reconciliation

June 2024

She appeared to make a genuine effort to prove her seriousness by sending me a signed invitation letter to Germany, along with a copy of her passport. It looked like progress, a gesture that showed commitment and a desire to move beyond the emotional chaos of previous months. But a closer look revealed that the document told a different story.

Sandwiched within the invitation letter was a carefully crafted legal indemnity clause: a statement specifying that the invitation could not be used as an admission of lying regarding any prior statements she had made to the police. This was an eye opener. It implied that she had, in fact, lied to officials, and was now hedging against any consequences.

It was a trap disguised as reconciliation. Later that month, she postponed my planned trip once again. This time, the reason was the most ridiculous one yet. We should wait until October or even November, because, in her own words:

"If you start a new job in Germany it is customary to go out drinking every night with all your new colleagues. For at least two weeks. I will be too drunk every night to be with you the right way. It will be better if we leave it for October or even November. "

The logic was absurd, but at that point it had become painfully obvious: there would never be a "good time" for us to meet, and she would always blame something else instead of admitting she had no intention of ever meeting me. Just another reset of the timeline, another manipulation of my expectations. This is exactly what narcissists do. Future Faking and pretending. Playing the victim for a fool. 

The PIKA Banning

In July 2024, I was permanently banned without warning from the same PIKA Discord server where she had first approached me for help nearly a year earlier. The reason given was that I had violated her privacy by referencing her in my Discord status. There was no prior notice, no discussion, just an instant, lifetime ban.

Why? I didn't know. But I soon learned that the same woman I had been romantically involved with for almost a year, had orchestrated this takedown deliberately, after planning it for weeks. She later said it was meant to "teach me a lesson" but that never rang true to me. And she did it all while pretending that everything was fine. The betrayal was cold, complete and intentional. It showed her true self.

Behaving as usual, we spent the days leading up to the ban as usual, long nights on Discord together, laughing, working, and watching movies. But behind the scenes, she was preparing a hit piece, a narrated video made from screenshots of my earlier reactive abuse emails. When it was done she handed the video to the moderators. (I later discovered the video by accident, hidden on her server)

She lied in her message to the moderators, first by claiming  she had no contact with Christian F. She had told me earlier she had wanted to get close to gain access to his film studio. For her to know that I had reached out, he must have told her. She likely instructed him to ignore me.

L.O. is skilled at manipulating people and controlling narratives. Of all the people close to her, only one person ever responded to me, her stepfather. 

Below is her actual message to the mods where she lies and tells them I am stalking her, threatening her and worse. I later exposed her lies to the moderators and she was permanently banned from the platform. 

Private Truth vs. Public Performance

Above is a screenshot showing her telling the lead moderator about the video she had created to get me banned.  I only discovered the video and her message weeks later while visiting our shared Discord server. Until then, she painted me as some kind of villain for capturing screenshots, as if that act alone proved I was malicious or untrustworthy. But in her message to the moderators, she completely disowned me, pretending we were barely acquainted.

Compare what she said to the moderators with the emails she sent me privately and the contrast is jarring and revealing. It's a textbook example of how a narcissist will shape-shift, rewrite history, and perform for an audience when it serves their goals. I made hundreds of videos for her YouTube channel. There was content of mine in every one of her videos that she uploaded from August of 2023. She defines our relationship as "intense contact", failing to mention that we had been talking about get married and starting a family.

No questions were asked and I was not afforded the chance to defend myself. Such is the ability of the narcissist to manipulate social media. No one thought to ask why only a single person ever complained about me after more than a year on the platform. One of the moderators on the team was personally involved in collaborating with L.O. and should never have been allowed to play any part in the judgment due to the conflict of interest.

She spoke of me having:

• Stalked her for months on Facebook and other social media
• Threatened to kill her
• Violated her privacy, because I had her first name in my status for a short while
• Invented a relationship she said "never existed"
• Had the wrong idea and that the thought of anything between us was "ridiculous" because I was "twice her age"

She told the moderators we had barely interacted. "Maybe one or two collaborations." She framed our interaction as negligible. Meanwhile she was sending me hundreds of text messages a day, engaging in repeated sex chats with me, writing me love poems, and watching entire seasons of Battlestar Galactica at my side. If betrayal ever had a name it would be named after her.

Two faces of betrayal 

When I was banned she was jubilant. She didn't apologize for having lied to me, nor did she care how I felt. She did say she was sorry. Once. I convinced her to chat to me on Discord and  the 11-hour long chat was spent talking about her, her day, her health, her cooking, etc.

She was extremely flirtatious, and kept steering the conversation back to sex. She badmouthed the moderators, asked me to upvote her video with a fake account so they wouldn't see, and continued to prove that her story of me being a dangerous stalker that terrorized her was just a lie she told to get rid of me from PIKA. She had no idea I was capturing every word. That night I created my own narrated video  which showed her true self. 

It's clear that this wasn't a conflict but more of a hit job. She decided that I deserved to be banned for my 'sins' against her. She planned and executed a deliberate scheme to create maximum damage, all while maintaining a mask of warmth and affection toward me. When the ban finally came through, she danced in the ashes of my AI career, oblivious to the fact that I would soon show them who really lit the match.

On July 13, I sent the video to the moderators. They could finally see the real L.O.. Bragging. Flirting. Mocking the same people who had believed her story and had banned me for life without asking me a single question. The next morning, L.O. was banned from PIKA for life. Not because of me, but because of her own words, recorded in the thrill of her betrayal.

I think this was the event that finally made me realize I wasn't dealing with a fully functioning, rational adult. There was no logical reason for her to try and destroy my AI career, yet she did it without even blinking, all while telling me she loved me. That's just not normal.

A massive narcissistic injury

She was devastated. The public exposure of her lies and manipulation represented a significant narcissistic injury, though she tried to hide how she felt. .What I didn't fully appreciate at the time was the severity of this narcissistic injury. I now understand this was the moment she made a calculated decision to execute a comprehensive revenge strategy. Everything that followed was meticulously orchestrated to destroy my life. Below you can see the real L.O. enraged because she got banned. She talks about meeting one of the moderators in person. At this point she thought she could still undo the damage from the video I gave to the moderators. 

After this she started plotting and planning furiously how she would destroy me utterly and completely. I had unknowingly unleashed a monster, relentless and determined at all costs to annihilate me.  She became "The Terminator". I would never have believed the sweet, charming young woman I had met just a few months ago could turn into this calculating and cruel human doppelganger.

She was already planning her discard of me