Surviving the Storm

Introduction

There are moments in life when reality fractures, not because you've lost your mind, but because someone has spent months manipulating and distorting it. This site is the result of one such fracture. What began as a simple request for help soon revealed itself to be something far more calculated, and sinister.

Narcissistic Behavior

L.O. displays textbook covert narcissist traits as defined in the DSM-5: low self-esteem, hypersensitivity to criticism, passive-aggressive victimhood, an obsessive need for control, and an alarming capacity for betrayal. Add entitlement, superiority, and a complete lack of empathy or remorse, and you have a dangerous personality, one who will destroy your life if it serves her goals.

When I first met her, I saw none of this. She was charming, intelligent, funny, creative, and full of energy. Despite our 29-year age difference, she quickly pushed beyond mentorship. She admired my work and intellect, respected me deeply, or so it seemed. Everything she did was designed to bond me to her emotionally.

When things turned romantic, I didn’t resist. The idea of being with someone so young and seemingly enamored with me was intoxicating. I trusted her completely. She appeared innocent and sincere. I was smitten, and I was unaware I had already been drawn into her fantasy world.

A Deliberate Plan

The constant texts, the shared dreams, the late-night chats, the explicit images, and the sexual messaging were all part of a slow psychological ambush. My desire blinded me to the red flags that surfaced again and again. This wasn’t a relationship, it was a campaign. Carefully planned idealization followed by textbook narcissistic abuse, designed for maximum impact. (She never even called it a relationship, only a “Contact.”)

Over time, she orchestrated a tightly choreographed program of emotional manipulation and betrayal. Her goal wasn’t just emotional control, it was destruction. Eventually, I realized this wasn’t eccentricity. It was pathology. L.O. was a covert narcissist.

Above: This video is created as an audio transcript of several emails I received from L.O. Here she threatens my wife with suing her, and then brags that she would still be able to entice me to come to Germany anytime she wanted to. Four months later she would send me an invitation letter to Germany. Not the actions of a frightened terrified woman. (Video is generated using AI voice. )

"Did Mommy already go to bed, hey? Poor little Klausi. Thinks he can just go on like he always does. But unfortunately, I gotta tell you that he can't.  This was the very last time I let you insult me.  Did Mommy not show you enough tits? Your disrespectful and vulgar way of talking is repelling and disgusting. " L.O. 

From Bad to Worse

I wasn’t just being lied to, I was being abused, controlled, and humiliated. I began researching her behavioral patterns and soon saw that I was dealing with a deeply disturbed individual. A covert narcissist with psychopathic tendencies.

I began to observe and document. I recorded emails, messages, personality shifts, everything. And as the evidence piled up, the truth emerged: I was the target of a sustained psychological and digital assault, carried out with surgical precision.

Others in the Shadows

Other figures soon emerged:

• Dom – Her supposed 'ex', a self-proclaimed incompetent hacker and criminal who still calls her “the love of his life.” She used him to access my accounts and to attempt to steal my funds. 

• J.H. – Her stepfather, an enabler who fears her. He absolutely confirmed my conclusions about her disorder and motivations.

• S. and M. – Female visitors from out of town. They stay overnight and leave the next day. Draw your own conclusions.

• M.H.– Her mother, accused by her own daughter of childhood abuse, she is widely believed to be the root of her narcissism.

• The Flynn - A compromised Discord user, former collaborator and moderator who she used to get me banned from the platform

• Lisa Vogelsang – A mystery woman linked to fake businesses in Unterneukirchen, Germany and fraudulent Croatian property sites.

• Z. – My wife of 16 years, who stood by me when she had every reason not to. She has my eternal thanks.

At the center of it all is L.O., the covert narcissist. She builds false intimacy, disappears without warning, rewrites history, then returns with a new version of events where she is always the victim. I didn’t understand this pattern of behavior at first. Now I finally do.

Narcissistic Psychology

I’ve spent months studying narcissistic personality disorder, particularly its covert forms. I’ve written extensively about it in online forums and my posts have reached nearly two million views in the last six months. I’ve spoken with other survivors, many of whom describe near-identical patterns of abuse. I may not have studied Cluster 2B disorders formally, but I am exceedingly familiar with the subject.

Speaking Out

What happened to me is not rare. It’s happening to others, right now. But victims rarely speak out, because narcissists are masterful at blame-shifting and playing the victim, while the abused is often seen as the abuser, thanks to the narcissist's expertise in twisting the narrative. This site is about clarity, not vengeance. I want to document what this toxic disorder looks like close up. And what the effects are on the real victims, those that are often made to look like the villains by the very people who abused them. 

Love, Devaluation and Discard

In the beginning, it felt like a genuine connection. She reflected my interests, values, and even vulnerabilities with uncanny accuracy. What I took for intimacy was actually calculated love bombing, engineered to create dependency. It worked.

Once I was invested, her behavior changed abruptly. She became distant, dismissive, and unpredictable. At the same time, she started working behind the scenes, contacting moderators and initiating bans against me on the same platform where she had admitted to first pursuing me. This was a textbook narcissistic devaluation phase, meant to destabilize and isolate me. She threatened me, blackmailed me, and even tried to have me fired by writing a email directly to my boss. She did these things repeatedly.

Then came the discard. She ghosted me without warning precisely and deliberately on our first anniversary and moved on. She has never again talked to me.  She was already with her supposed "ex", Dom when she ghosted me. I have a photographic evidence of this. But the real damage came 3 months later. She and Dom hacked more than twenty of my online accounts, launched phishing attacks, and tampered with my digital identity. She fabricated stories, cast herself as the victim, and leveraged authorities to reinforce her narrative. At that point, I was now a liability, someone who knew too much and could expose her.

Her goal was always recognition. First she wanted to be a well know Video AI creator then, when she was also banned from PIKA she wanted to be a well-known writer, and removing me was part of that plan, as I had the evidence that could expose her true nature. So she decided a long time ago to destroy me professionally, emotionally, and digitally.

She now works at a publishing firm and has even got her new boss, the Chief Editor, to use his firms legal team to launch frivolous law suits at me. None of it was accidental. She is still manipulating and abusing. Every move followed a pattern: exploiting empathy, projecting blame, manipulating perceptions, and hiding all of it behind a carefully constructed persona. It was a performance. The real person only emerged when she felt threatened or in private when nobody was looking.. She tried her best to silence me and make me disappear.

But I refused to do that.

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Disclaimer:
These images are AI-generated for illustrative purposes. Any resemblance to real individuals, living or dead, is purely coincidental. This is not a depiction of the subject.