"Did Mommy not show you enough tits? Poor little Klausi. Thinks he can just go on like he always does. But unfortunately, I gotta tell you that he can't.  This was the very last time I let you insult me.  Your disrespectful and vulgar way of talking is repelling and disgusting "                                                                                        L.O. (The terrified 'Victim')

False Criminal Charges

 

When the Abuser Becomes the Victim

In the wake of the hacking campaign that saw more than twenty of my accounts compromised, I was still regaining access, locking down platforms, and assessing the damage, when the next blow landed. On 18 December 2024, L.O. went to the German authorities with a rehearsed fabrication: I was a dangerous, obsessive stalker. A man unhinged and an abuser. Just like every man before me I was a threat to her safety, 

Armed with emails she had provoked me into writing through reactive abuse, she managed to file a list of charges that reads like a cybercrime wish list: threats, intimidation, impersonation, cyber forgery, data alteration, cyber extortion, disclosure of data, misuse of intimate images, fraud, stalking, sexual assault, revenge porn, hacking, and more.

In reality, she accused me of precisely what she and Dom had just spent two weeks doing to me. No hard evidence. No forensic analysis. No attempt to verify a single claim. I wasn’t contacted, questioned, or even given the chance to defend myself, just like in the PIKA ban. My phone number is public, yet no investigator called. I was 8000km away and had never even met her in person.

That’s how skilled she is at weaponizing the victim narrative, turning society’s defenses into her attack. A covert narcissist delivering an Oscar-level performance to institutions primed to believe the narrative of a young, apparently frightened and vulnerable woman.

The timing was no accident. She filed the charges two weeks after the hacking spree ended. It was her Christmas gift to me. But it was a  smokescreen. She knew I was closing in on the truth, so she did what all seasoned manipulators do, accuse the victim of the abusers  crimes before they can speak.


Valentine's Day

A strange accident perhaps, but on February the 14th, Valentines Day, the consequences of her lies reached my doorstep. The South African police, acting on Interpol's request, arrived at 04:30 am to confiscate my computer, cell phones and hard drives. With five vehicles they descended on my house for the first time in my life, showed me a search warrant and proceeded to take my equipment, cell phone and passport. The same passport I had ordered to be able to travel to Germany to meet with this scam artist. If that isn't irony I don't know what is. 

Reversal of Roles
I, the actual victim of an orchestrated digital and psychological attack, having suffered therapy needing levels of narcissistic abuse, was now being treated as the offender and abuser! The audacity of it was staggering, but not surprising. After months of manipulation, betrayal, and calculated abuse, L.O. had seized control of the narrative once again. But this time there was a difference. I was not just going to look the other way again. This time I would fight back.


I had kept quiet too long, allowing her to smear my name, not acting in my defense. Maybe I had still hoped for reconciliation or hoping for closure. But that February morning I realized just how badly I had been played. Was still being played. I would not make the mistake of letting her fool me again. I resolved to do whatever it took to make sure the world knew what had really happened to me. 

Why a Narcissist Lays False Criminal Charges

Introduction

When L.O. had finished hacking my accounts she went on the defensive. She attacked again. Not through digital sabotage.But by filing false criminal charges . It was a calculated maneuver. Designed not to win, but to destroy.

The Narcissist’s Psychological Need for Control

At the core of narcissistic behavior lies a fragile ego. When I caused her banning it created a narcissistic injury, a perceived threat to her self-image. And she needed revenge.

In order to feel superior again she needed to destroy me. That included my reputation, freedom, and resources.

From Wounded Ego to Legal Retaliation

To her, truth is irrelevant. Narrative is everything. Legal systems, unfortunately, offer the perfect stage.
By filing false charges, she weaponized the justice system itself. She reframed her abuse as my crime.
The goal is not a conviction. It is humiliation. Distraction. Isolation. A reversal of roles where she is the victim and I am a publicly branded villain.

Why False Charges Are So Effective

  1. Instant Power Shift – Once charges are filed, the target becomes reactive. Defending. Explaining. Panicked.

  2. Credibility Damage – Even if the case is dismissed, the accusation lingers like smoke after a fire.

  3. Emotional Chaos – It is not just about fear. It is about wearing you down. She continues to 'control'

  4. Legal Weaponization – Narcissists often hide behind bureaucracies. They use “the system” as a smokescreen to continue psychological abuse.

Real-World Impact on Victims

Victims of false accusations face real consequences:

  • Loss of income, jobs, or social standing

  • Damage to mental health due to fear and uncertainty

  • Legal costs, travel restrictions, confiscated devices

  • Dismissal of actual evidence of abuse once the narcissist flips the narrative

This is not just frustrating. It is psychologically devastating.

Final Warning: How to Protect Yourself

  • Document everything. Messages, voice notes, call logs.

  • Do not confront the narcissist alone once legal escalation is suspected.

  • Seek legal advice early. 

  • Treat every smear or veiled threat as a serious threat.

  • Stay calm and remember that you are not the abuser.

Conclusion

False criminal charges are not rare accidents in narcissistic relationships. They are the final weapon. When truth threatens illusion, the narcissist retaliates with projection. They do not just deny your story. They attempt to overwrite it with their own.

But exposure cuts deeper than accusation. Once their patterns are seen clearly, especially by others, the house of cards begins to fall.

Here she basically admits that she is keeping my abusive reaction emails as ammunition to use against me. She also threatens to meet, in person, a Discord moderator who will help her make sure I never set foot in the AI field again. And what was it that I did that was so horrendous? I took screenshots of our chats. Because she always deleted them after she abused me. When she discovered that the evidence was not deleted,,,,this was her reaction. Blackmail and threats. 

Above: Just some of the abuse I was subjected to.

Above: She was constantly telling me it was all over, yet at the same time still trying to entice me to come to Germany for a "sex holiday"

Above: Here she once again threatens me with legal and personal consequences. "There are people who will make you pay" and " I have your passport, your documents, your everything" I never gave her any documents. I had no reason to. She stole them the same way she stole my passwords and account details. 

 

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