Money Motives

 

The Financial Manipulation Exposed

From the very beginning of my involvement with L.O., money was always in the background. She never outright begged, but her intent was clear: manipulate, dry-beg, and test boundaries. Below, I expose how money became both the bait and the weapon in her campaign of abuse, and how her greed and entitlement evolved into direct attacks.

 

The Setup: A Nose Job and a Trap

One of the first stories I ever heard from her was about a botched nose operation. The German health system, she claimed, wouldn’t pay for it. She said she needed €20,000, a huge sum for such a procedure, which later research showed was typically a fraction of that amount. She never directly asked me for the money, but repeatedly circled the topic. She wanted me to offer it, to prove my devotion.

“I need 20,000 euros to fix my nose. The health insurance won’t cover it. I don’t know what I’ll do.”

When I refused to take the bait, the narrative shifted. Suddenly, she was fixated on my home, my assets, my marriage. She tried to get me to sell my house, pushing the idea that if I “really cared,” I would be willing to divorce my wife and start a new life. She fished for estate values, always asking for specific details on the progress of the supposed sale.

 

Moving the Goalposts

When the “nose job” scheme didn’t work, she began to blatantly ask for money. In her emails, she made her contempt for my financial status explicit, constantly  demanding more.

“Contact me again when you have money. That’s the only thing you could offer me that is still interesting about you… 50,000 Euro. Not interested in you before you have that at least. And won’t be interested for long if you don’t have more soon.”

She ridiculed, mocked, and insulted, insisting that my only value was my earning power. If I wasn’t rich enough, I was disposable. Her demands escalated:

“You gotta buy yourself into my pussy after what you did. Sorry but true. ;-)”

 

Trading, Crypto, and the Long Con

Another recurring theme was her push for me to “go do crypto trading.” Not because she cared about my success, but because she needed a steady flow of cash for her own lifestyle. She treated trading as her ticket to a high-maintenance life she imagined for herself. When my own crypto accounts became targets for hacking, the intent was no longer subtle. She wanted direct access to the money.

 

When She Didn’t Get What She Wanted

After every failed attempt to extract money, her contempt only deepened. She lashed out, belittling my worth as a man, as a provider, as a person:

“Go earn some money if you are as hard working and smart as you think you are. Then what is holding you back, old man?”

 

And when I still didn’t capitulate, she spun the narrative to accuse me of being obsessed with money:

 

“You accuse me of this shit since half a year and you know what? 50,000 Euro. Not interested in you before you have that at least.”

The projection is textbook: accuse me of the very thing she’s doing, while making ever-more outrageous demands.

 

The Final Attempt: Theft

When manipulation failed, she escalated to outright theft, attempting to drain my crypto exchange accounts with the help of her boyfriend, Dom. Once again, she failed, but not for lack of trying. Money was always the motive, either to support her schemes, fund her “lifestyle,” or simply to prove her power over me.

 

A Relationship for Sale: The Price of Entry

From the first days of the relationship, L.O. introduced the idea of financial sacrifice as a requirement for her love. She never outright asked, but always implied, testing my boundaries, using guilt, shame, and humiliation to see how far she could push. Her emails are full of shifting ultimatums:

• “Contact me again when you have money… 50,000 Euro. Not interested in you before you have that at least.”

• “If you are not a coward and learn how to earn money you can come here.”

• “Go earn some money if you are as hard working and smart as you think you are. Then what is holding you back, old man?”

Affection and validation were always just out of reach—always conditional, always shifting. No matter what I did, the bar was moved higher.

And when manipulation failed? She turned to outright contempt, ridicule, and, eventually, criminal attempts to steal my savings directly. Every interaction was a test, and the only way to “win” was to lose myself, my values, my dignity, and, if she had her way, my life savings.

Financial abuse and manipulation were always central to her strategy. She didn’t just want money, she wanted control, humiliation, and proof that she could bend me to her will. Every demand, every insult, every “test” was part of the same game.

 

She has even  invited me to come to Germany for a "2 week sex holiday" as long as I brought enough money with me. She also states that the only thing that's a turn on about "old men" like me is money. She also informs me in an email that I will have to "buy my way into her pussy" and that she isn't interested unless I have at least 50 000 euros to offer.

Ask yourself, are these the words of a terrified and helpless woman who is being terrorized by a psychopathic stalker?

Above: She makes it clear that money would determine if I was to receive any physical affection. 

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